Recipe for a Healthy Relationship
Ingredients to Build a Healthy Relationship
- Add a dash of sharing your day with each other
- Add plenty of daily cuddle time
- Generously mix in some expression of appreciation for each other
- Add toleration for what your partner can’t change
- Sparingly stir in complaining, but do not blame
- Add lots of clearly expressing your needs
- Measure in sharing activities with each other
- Make sure to always discuss your problems and concerns, so that they don’t bubble up
- Sift out harsh judgment and criticism
- Make sure not to take the relationship for granted
- Top with loving your partner for who he/she is, not your idealization of him/her
Myths About the Perfect Relationship
Many people have expectations of relationships that are unrealistic. Here are common myths about what love means:
- You should always be able to anticipate my thoughts, feelings and needs
- You should always make me happy
- Never having to be angry or upset with each other
- Always wanting to be together
- You will always respect, understand and accept me no matter what I might do
- Our level of affection and commitment must never decline
- We must always be in agreement with one another
- You will fulfill all my dreams
(Remember these are MYTHS!!)