Recipe for a Healthy Relationship

Myths About the Perfect Romantic Relationship

Many people have expectations of relationships that are unrealistic. Here are common myths about what love means:

  • You should always be able to anticipate my thoughts, feelings and needs
  • You should always make me happy
  • Never having to be angry or upset with each other
  • Always wanting to be together
  • You will always respect, understand and accept me no matter what I might do
  • Our level of affection and commitment must never decline
  • We must always be in agreement with one another
  • You will fulfill all my dreams

Relationship Rights

I have the right to:
  • Be treated with dignity and respect
  • Say no and set limits
  • Have my own beliefs, values, & opinions
  • Feel safe
  • Be myself
  • Make mistakes
  • Experience and respectfully express my feelings
  • Feel good about myself
  • Leave the relationship if it is not working

Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship

  • Lack of respect
  • Being held back
  • Controlling behavior: There is no excuse for abuse
  • Getting blamed for your partner’s problems
  • Feeling jealous most of the time
  • Trying to change the other person’s behavior
  • Needing constant contact from your partner (excessive texting, demanding responses immediately)

Healthy Relationships Consist of the Following:

  • Importance of respect, honesty, and trust
  • Expression of care and affection
  • Do not forget to have fun (Allow space to have a good time together AND a good time with others separate from one another. It is okay to have friends outside of the relationship).
  • Individual identities are maintained
  • Genuinely want each other to be happy & succeed
  • Differences are respected; conflicts are resolved respectfully
  • Minimal drama!
  • Reciprocal – both people give & receive support


Healthy Communication